Saturday, May 13, 2006

Finding Happiness

I don't remember the last time when I had a hearty and genuine laugh. Most of us turn monotnous and sedentary, lost in contemplating on things that would gaurd us in the dead zone of security. The present illusion of the shore of safety, shell of security and the crystal of certainity makes life dead and would at some point makes us realize that we are living someone else's life. Beyond these illusions, we have always been happy living in insecurity and uncertainity and there is always a joy in living dangerously.


Don't call it Uncertainity - call it Wonder

Don't call it Insecurity - call it Freedom


I found the following six tips deviced by Tal Ben-Shahar who teaches Positive Psychology at Harvard University to be really useful in atleast making an attempt to deliver myself of the disillusionment of security and certainity.


Six Tips for Happiness

1. Give yourself permission to be human. When we accept emotions -- such as fear, sadness, or anxiety -- as natural, we are more likely to overcome them. Rejecting our emotions, positive or negative, leads to frustration and unhappiness.

2. Happiness lies at the intersection between pleasure and meaning. Whether at work or at home, the goal is to engage in activities that are both personally significant and enjoyable. When this is not feasible, make sure you have happiness boosters, moments throughout the week that provide you with both pleasure and meaning.

3. Keep in mind that happiness is mostly dependent on our state of mind, not on our status or the state of our bank account. Barring extreme circumstances, our level of well being is determined by what we choose to focus on (the full or the empty part of the glass) and by our interpretation of external events. For example, do we view failure as catastrophic, or do we see it as a learning opportunity?

4. Simplify! We are, generally, too busy, trying to squeeze in more and more activities into less and less time. Quantity influences quality, and we compromise on our happiness by trying to do too much.

5. Remember the mind-body connection. What we do -- or don't do -- with our bodies influences our mind. Regular exercise, adequate sleep, and healthy eating habits lead to both physical and mental health.

6. Express gratitude, whenever possible. We too often take our lives for granted. Learn to appreciate and savor the wonderful things in life, from people to food, from nature to a smile.

4 comments:

Kamal Aanand (Kamz) said...

I guess all the 6 points should be equally rated. But I personally believe that points 2 and 5 are really really important. Sticking on to them would be the toughest challenge.

Kamal Aanand (Kamz) said...

Shiva, I forgot reading this post. But now after my recent post, I realize that it does make REAL sense. :)

Bharath Srinivasan said...

Shiva,Your blog look fantastic...

Great work!

Kumar said...

Hi. That is a good set of six. Very nice. Need tips to adhere to tips!